Does anyone else get tired of constantly nagging their children to do their chores or abide by the simple household rules that have been in place for years? I fluctuate between periods of either trying not to let it bother me or complaining constantly, which makes me not-so-popular with the children and feeling mean, angry, and guilty. As a result, I am a big fan of any discipline system that gets my kids to do what and behave how they are supposed to without me getting “emotional” (our polite term at home for when mommy becomes a ranting lunatic).
Imagine my delight when I stumbled upon the “uh oh” jar on Pinterest. Unfortunately, the original link only led to a photo. I had to do some digging around (thank you Google) to find the original source to gather all the details. Sadly, that website is no longer active so you’ll have to settle for my version.
Basically, it’s a jar of consequences for your children in the event they break a household rule. No yelling, no idle threats. You simply have the child choose a slip of paper at random and whatever the paper says becomes their consequence. You can throw in a couple of freebies so they enjoy getting away with something every once in a while.
For your convenience, I have created several consequences that you can print off and use. I have also included two pages of blank ones so you can create your own. Of course you could also just cut a piece of paper into squares and save some ink, but if you are OCD like me, you will want the lines to cut along (see, I understand crazy).
Oh, and if you’re one of those super crafty and creative moms, you can go crazy decorating your jar. It’s not my strong suit so I was limited to what I could do with stickers. I thought the hearts would express to my children that even though they make mistakes and have to face consequences, I love them very much. They got from the hearts, “I love to punish you.”
Since my original writing of this post, I received some feedback from other parents who prefer positive reinforcement. I created a Reward Jar with free printable rewards in response to their comments. Please continue to share your feedback and concerns so I can help, if I’m able.