Comments on: 10 Parenting Mistakes Good Parents Make

By: Eva Weber

Eva Weber — Fri, 01 May 2020 03:56:52 +0000

I have heard my 6 yr old grandchild spoken to with light sarcasm or teasing by her parents. Sometimes she thinks it’s funny. Other times it hurts her or humiliates her. It has become an unintended habit in their household.
I can see that my grandchild is often confused when her misapplied attempts at sarcasm or teasing are met with derision. Just recently she was harshly yelled at which frightened and confused her. It was heartbreaking to hear her fear and confusing as she cried.
Being her grandmother, it wasn’t my place to step in. I don’t know how to suggest to my daughter and her husband that they may be missing the cause of their 6 year old’s acting out.
Since I can stand back and observe without being involved, without feeling the parents’ exhaustion and impatience, it’s painfully easy for me to see what’s happening to this little child.
There is a line that I feel you can’t ever cross with a child. You can’t use sarcasm and teasing beyond a funny, playful expression. A 6 yr old doesn’t understand when it works and when it doesn’t. The adults understand, but forget and form harmful, painful, confusing interactions with their child.
I wish I could discuss this with them, but most likely, they would not welcome my thoughts no matter how kindly I could put them.
We all get along well and have good times together. It’s important not to create a bad feeling, but also important to improve my 6 yr old grandchild’s daily life.
So hard to know what to do.

By: Wondermom Wannabe

Wondermom Wannabe — Tue, 17 Mar 2015 02:01:49 +0000

In reply to Ali. I worked as a teacher's assistant so I wonder if that has skewed my perspective since all of the teachers seem to agree with these points. Maybe that's why they stand out to me? Thank you so much for taking the time to stop by, read, and comment. I learn more from the insightful comments of my readers than I do from my own experiences and I truly appreciate the time and energy you put into a thoughtful remark!

By: Ali

Ali — Tue, 17 Mar 2015 01:54:52 +0000

I couldn’t help but think while I was reading all of these that this is what every teacher wants parents to know!! This could definitely be from a teacher to a parent. Ugh! These are mistakes I am sure I’ll make in the future, but as a teacher turned stay at home mom, I am hoping I can avoid some of them. Thanks for this, I really enjoyed it. A wonderful reminder! #creativebloggers

By: Julie

Julie — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 21:36:14 +0000

These are some really good points. It is definitely hard not to compare yourself to others, so of course that carries to our kids too.

By: Jenn Youse

Jenn Youse — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 20:24:25 +0000

Great post, thank you for sharing!

By: Wondermom Wannabe

Wondermom Wannabe — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 20:22:15 +0000

In reply to Susan. I know most parents do it because they are trying to help their kids so it's always a tough one to watch. I agree with you that it's better to teach our children to problem solve and help them practice those skills instead.

By: Wondermom Wannabe

Wondermom Wannabe — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 20:21:01 +0000

In reply to Shailee Butalia. Shailee, I began my parenting journey with the same thing in mind--trying to avoid the mistakes I felt my parents made (based on little resentments that I realized I still carried as an adult). If we aren't learning from our experiences, then we're wasting them. I agree with your measure of successful parenting.

By: Wondermom Wannabe

Wondermom Wannabe — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 20:19:37 +0000

In reply to Mom on the Move. Thank you for sharing your perspective as both a teacher and a parent. It is very hard to set our emotions aside when it comes to our kids but sometimes it is necessary and helps us to do what is best for them. Thanks again for sharing your insight!

By: Wondermom Wannabe

Wondermom Wannabe — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 20:18:05 +0000

In reply to Valerie. Me too. I'm guilty of all of these mistakes, actually, but the comparison one is my worst! Thank you for stopping by.

By: Valerie

Valerie — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 20:07:59 +0000

I have definitely compared too much and let my emotions get the best of me!

By: Mom on the Move

Mom on the Move — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 19:20:25 +0000

I love this post! These are all great points and things to remember! As a teacher and a parent ,I’ve been on both sides of some of these mistakes. It is very frustrating to work with parents with these mindsets! On the other hand, its also is a great reminder for me as a parent not to make that mistake with my kids! They are so easy to say but it can be so hard when things get personal with your child! Thanks for sharing it!

By: Shailee Butalia

Shailee Butalia — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 17:55:12 +0000

The one thing I always tell myself is my goal is to just make different mistakes than my parents did. Then, I’ve succeeded as a parent. I can only do my best according to my knowledge and my beliefs.

By: Susan

Susan — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 15:01:53 +0000

As a mom of 3 and a parent educator, you’ve covered some really good points. Solving your child’s problems for them is a big one I see parents doing wrong. It’s our job to teach our children how to problem solve and then support them as they practice.